“I’ve seen rock bottom
and i’ve smashed my fists against it…”
^ probably the best way to explain my absence since like….July. WHAT!
(Apologies for the long break.)
So – let’s start way back when I hit rock bottom. There came a day, just like any other, when I couldn’t get out of bed. I couldn’t see anything bright in my future. I was lonely, unhealthy, and surrounding myself with people that I knew were bad for me.
Rock bottom. For everyone it’s different, but I remember feeling utterly lost and hating myself more than ever before.
So for a few weeks I wore that. I hated everyone, but mostly myself.
And then one day….I woke up. I stopped blaming everyone else for how I was feeling. I looked at myself in the mirror and thought – this is it. You’re all you have. So you’d better start getting along.
Cliche, right? I know. It helped though. I cleaned myself up. I lifted my chin, opened my eyes, and made a plan: surround myself with positive people. Be confident, and believe that you deserve to be happy.
And now, 8 months later, I’m happier than I have ever been.
“Who can raise you from the fall and save you?
Only you.
Who can take the pain away and change you?
Only you.”
I think of Killswitch Engage as my gateway band – the first time I heard them (thanks Alan!) it was like, “ohhh, so this is what i’ve been waiting for”. And I guess this song spoke to me so much because that’s the way I felt after meeting an amazing new person.
“Strength of the mind” is from their new album, “Incanate”. I’ve really enjoyed their most recent albums, they seem alot fiercer. Don’t get me wrong, Howard is an amazing vocalist, and we all love a sing-a-long / mosh to ‘End of Heartache’, but Jesse is my guy. He’s real. He embraces his struggles, and makes me feel like he understands.
“Gather all your pain and suffering
Turn them into strength and weaponry
To overcome the enemy that’s in you”
Never be afraid to reach out and ask for help, there is always someone who wants to hear your story. Just don’t rely on others for your happiness. It starts with you. You are strong, and loved, and incredible. Love yourself, and I promise you will be okay.
“Make a choice, shine on…”
Fi xx